How Seven Months Shaped Thirty Years
In February 1979, I arranged to live with a Christian Brothers Grace community in Fridley, Minnesota, while completing the student teaching requirement for an education minor in conjunction with a Social Science major from St. John’s University. At only $125 a month with meals included, it was a practical solution for a 22-year-old college student.
What I found there proved priceless.
The Brothers—older men dedicated to education and service—became more than hosts. They encouraged me through my early teaching challenges and inspired me throughout my 30-year career in special education. When I struggled in my first teaching position and nearly left the profession entirely, I returned to the Brothers for consolation. They gave it freely. Their influence has been ethereal. Whenever I've strayed from their noble mission, realigning myself with them has always felt like finding the right path again. The Christian Brothers provided a cocoon of support and unconditional love at a very vulnerable time in my life. I am eternally grateful for those seven months.
During retirement, while reviewing my estate planning, I had a realization: that brief period of generous hospitality in 1979 had provided the foundation for everything that followed—my professional calling, my perseverance through difficult years, and ultimately, my financial security.
I reached out to Brother Bob Smith, with whom I'd maintained occasional contact over the decades, to discuss making a gift to the Christian Brothers. That conversation reignited our friendship and connected me with Midwest District’s Provincialate Development team to formalize my legacy commitment.
For me, a legacy gift isn't just about returning $125 a month. It's about honoring seven months that shaped thirty years—and ensuring future vulnerable young people find the same cocoon of support that changed my life.
